Question #3 That A Lady Needs Answered About The Guy She’s Dating (Without Actually Asking Him)

Question #3 That A Lady Needs Answered About The Guy She’s Dating

Could too many questions drive one nuts?

These thoughts are geared toward the college-age or older couples who have the opportunity to pursue a relationship that can ultimately lead them to marriage. Having said that, enjoy:

* I would not advise you to ask your date these questions. I would simply make it a point to find the answers to these questions by observing his life.

A lady should know about her guy…

3. Will you be sure to tithe before you spend our money on anything else?

This is an easy question to answer whether by conversation or observation. You can learn a lot by paying attention when you are sitting with him during a church service and the offering plate goes by. You know how often he gets paid; does he put his tithe envelope in that often? You both get a year end statement of giving. Show him your statement and ask him if you can see his.

I also believe it would be wise to have a conversation in which you discuss how you both learned about tithing and what your current approach is. It may be that neither of you grew up learning to tithe; that can be fixed. I am more concerned that you both understand the importance of tithing right now at your current level of growth.

Why is this question so important? Well first, it is important because you are setting a pattern for your future. You will be facing many tough financial decisions while you are in college and honoring God with your money at this time in your life will show you what you can expect when you face the tough financial decisions that come with marriage.

Second, it is important because we see both a terrible curse and an incredible blessing connected to this matter of tithing in Malachi 3:“8 Will a man rob God? Yet ye have robbed me. But ye say, Wherein have we robbed thee? In tithes and offerings. 9 Ye are cursed with a curse: for ye have robbed me, even this whole nation. 10 Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the LORD of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it. 11 And I will rebuke the devourer for your sakes, and he shall not destroy the fruits of your ground; neither shall your vine cast her fruit before the time in the field, saith the LORD of hosts. 12 And all nations shall call you blessed: for ye shall be a delightsome land, saith the LORD of hosts.”

And third, it is important because I have had many godly women who know that tithing is right, come and talk to me with a heart that is broken by a husband who is angry at the church because he thinks they only want his money. Let’s get this straight. As a pastor I talk about tithing, not because I want people’s money, but because if I don’t teach people to tithe, then I have robbed them of the ability to receive God’s blessing and the ability to avoid God’s curse.

Tithing is simply too serious a matter for you to be unsure of your future husband’s thoughts and approach.