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Digging For Hidden Treasures On The Bus Route
- Many will come when free things are given out
Two kinds of bus workers on a big day promotion:
1) There is the bus worker who skims the surface
The skimmer:
- passes the flyers out to all the regular bus stops
- passes the flyers out to some of the dead file
- knocks on a few new doors
- tells the bus riders the week before the big day…”is anybody coming next week”
- throws leftover flyers in the basket
- hopes for a big day
2) There is the bus worker who digs on the bus route
- this bus worker who digs, knows hidden treasures are buried and not on the surface
- this bus worker who digs, knows it takes more effort to find the treasure than to skim
- this bus worker who digs, knows there is no map to the hidden treasure, you have to search
- this bus worker who digs, knows that digging is tedious work
- this bus worker who digs, knows it takes patience to find the hidden treasure
- this bus worker who digs, will enlist more help to dig (if you need help, ask for help with visiting for the big day)
ask the ladies soul-winning club to help, ask the men soul-winners to help
What does digging bring you?
Crowds of bus riders!!
Question #6 That A Lady Needs Answered About The Guy She’s Dating (Without Actually Asking Him)
Question #6 That A Lady Needs Answered About The Guy She’s Dating
These thoughts are geared toward the college-age or older couples who have the opportunity to pursue a relationship that can ultimately lead them to marriage. Having said that, enjoy:
* While it is not wrong or even unwise to ask your date these questions, it is nevertheless easy for your date to tell you what they think you want to hear. But, if you would simply make it a point to find the answers to these questions by observing their life, you may find the real answer to your question.
A lady should know about her guy…
6. How will you discipline our children?
Of course the real question that most girls want to know is “Do you want children and do you like children?” This is not difficult to learn if you simply watch them around little kids. You want to know if they have a gentle manner or if they are harsh and impatient. The reason that knowing what they are like around children is important to our study of discipline is because their ability to connect with kids will profoundly affect their need for discipline.
Then, when it comes to discipline, there are two extremes you will want to avoid. One extreme is the no-discipline approach. Ladies, you do not want a man who leaves all the discipline to you or doesn’t want anyone to discipline them. 1 Kings 1:5-6 talks about Adonijah saying that his parents had not displeased him in anything. The result was a rotten son wh0 tried to take over his father’s kingdom.
The other extreme is the intense-discipline approach. The father who acts like a drill-sergeant and has little or no patience with variations from his demands. This is exactly who is being addressed in Ephesians 6:4 and Colossians 3:21, where the father is told not to provoke his children to wrath and anger.
Whether the guy your dating is heading toward one of these extreme styles can be learned by observing a few situations. You can certainly learn a lot by learning about his parents and how he was raised. Listen to how he talks about his father, his mother or the rules that he was under. (The absence of a father has various affects on all kids, whether boys or girls, and the impact of any and all of those affects can be profound. That doesn’t mean a guy who did not have a father will become a father who is too lenient or strict, but you will want to learn what affects the absence of a father had.) You can also learn how he will discipline your children by the strength of his relationships with people. In other words, does he have people skills? Is he a perfectionist? Could he care less about things? Is he easily irritated? Does he think that many of the rules that he is under are stupid?
I trust this has given you some food for thought. Two books I would highly recommend are “Shepherding A Child’s Heart” by Tedd Tripp and “Training Kings and Queens” by Cindy Schaap.
Are there any other books you would recommend on the subject of discipline? Are there any other signs that would indicate your potential husband is going to struggle in disciplining your children? I would love to hear from you!
Question #5 That A Guy Needs Answered About The Gal He’s Dating (Without Actually Asking Her)
Question #5 That A Guy Needs Answered About The Gal He’s Dating
These thoughts are geared toward the college-age or older couples who have the opportunity to pursue a relationship that can ultimately lead them to marriage. Having said that, enjoy:
* While it is not wrong or even unwise to ask your date these questions, it is nevertheless easy for your date to tell you what they think you want to hear. But, if you would simply make it a point to find the answers to these questions by observing their life, you may find the real answer to your question.
A guy should know about his gal…
5. Does the way you dress tell people that you are proud of your figure, or are you comfortable wearing clothes high enough up top, low enough down low and loose enough all over?
(In other words are you more, “If you’ve got it flaunt it” or “glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s”?)
I remember the first time I saw my wife. She walked into our church and I was floored. I noticed her immediately. My wife has a great personality, but that is not what I noticed. My wife is very intelligent but that is not what I noticed. What first caught my attention was her beauty. That is not an uncommon story for most guys. It is common for a guy to notice a beautiful girl.
However, though she is beautiful, she did not have to capture my attention by trying to draw my (and everyone else’s) attention to her body. Some girls believe that in order to catch a guy’s eye, they have to wear clothes that draw attention to their body. What they don’t realize is that, while they will catch many guys’ eyes, they will not be pleased with the kind of guy that they are attracting.
The verse I mentioned at the beginning, 1 Corinthians 6:20, says, “For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” Notice that we are to “glorify God” in our body and that our body belongs to God. That is the kind of girl that a guy should be looking for. The first verses of 1 Peter 3 describe many things that women used to make themselves look beautiful; but verse 4 describes “the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.” I believe this is teaching that the most attractive aspect of a woman who is chaste is her countenance; her smile. That is quite a contrast to a woman drawing attention to her body.
Proverbs 7 describes a woman with the attire of an harlot. That passage tells us that our clothes tell others about us and that there is a way that a woman can dress that is not glorifying to God.
In a dating relationship, a guy should be aware of what his date is trying to say with her clothing styles and choices. While he may like knowing that she has a nice figure, he had better realize that if she is dressing in a way that accents her body, then 1) every other guy can see the same thing and 2) she is not going to change the way she dresses just because she marries you. Are you going to be happy when she, as your wife, is showing all the other men in the world her nice figure?
If she is dressing provocatively, that is a warning sign that you had better run.
Let me add one more thought to this concerning newer Christians. We have had many young ladies over the years that were new Christians who dressed inappropriately because they had never been taught how to dress. Many of those young ladies have turned out to be fine Christians. I would give two thoughts of advice here. 1) Find out what her attitude is when a godly lady begins to teach her and 2) give her plenty of time to grow in the Lord. Don’t be so insecure that you have to begin a relationship with her right away because you are worried that someone else will win her heart first. Slow down there, Sparky.
Posted in Boy-Girl Relationships, Dating, Modesty, Parenting
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6 Ways That The Resurrection Revealed Christ’s Compassion
When most people imagine their death, that is, if they ever allow themselves to imagine their death, I would doubt that many people would imagine actually using their death for a purpose. In studying the connection between the Christ’s death and Resurrection and the subject of compassion, I have found that that is exactly what Christ did. He used His death and Resurrection to prove His compassion.
Let me point out 6 ways that Jesus’ Resurrection revealed His compassion for His followers.
1. He cared enough to prepare His followers ahead of time.
Notice how often Jesus told His followers ahead of time that He would die and rise again.
Mark 8:31 “And he began to teach them, that the Son of man must suffer many things, and be rejected of the elders, and of the chief priests, and scribes, and be killed, and after three days rise again.”
Mark 10:34 “And they shall mock him, and shall scourge him, and shall spit upon him, and shall kill him: and the third day he shall rise again.”
Mark 14:“18 And as they sat and did eat, Jesus said, Verily I say unto you, One of you which eateth with me shall betray me. … 27 And Jesus saith unto them, All ye shall be offended because of me this night: for it is written, I will smite the shepherd, and the sheep shall be scattered. 28 But after that I am risen, I will go before you into Galilee.”
In addition to these Scriptures, we could also examine John 13:33, 14:1-4, 12-18, 26-28.
Time and again Jesus showed compassion by preparing His followers for His death by telling them about His Resurrection. He did not have to do that. He did it because He loved them.
2. He cared enough to pay the price. He actually went through with the cross.
Luke 9:51 “And it came to pass, when the time was come that he should be received up, he stedfastly set his face to go to Jerusalem,”
Mark 14:35 And he went forward a little, and fell on the ground, and prayed that, if it were possible, the hour might pass from him. 36 And he said, Abba, Father, all things are possible unto thee; take away this cup from me: nevertheless not what I will, but what thou wilt.
Not only did Jesus show compassion by telling His followers that His death was not the end, but He made the ultimate revelation of His compassion by actually going through with His death. Without His death there could have been no Resurrection, “17 And if Christ be not raised, your faith is vain; ye are yet in your sins. 18 Then they also which are fallen asleep in Christ are perished. 19 If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men most miserable.” 1 Corinthians 15:17-19. Not a pretty description of what life for mankind would be like without the Resurrection. I’m glad He had enough compassion to pay the price for us by dying on the cross in order to set up the Resurrection.
3. He cared enough to reveal His power; specifically the power to resurrect (Ephesians 1:19-20).
He not only cared enough to go through with death. Many have. But the fact that He had the power to rise again was a further proof of His compassion.
The old standard of God’s power that was used in the Old Testament was the Exodus. The Exodus did not only represent God’s power, it was forever after the standard of God’s power to deliver His people. Scores of times it is referred to as the standard in the Old Testament. Consider Micah 7:15. It is a great representative example. “According to the days of thy coming out of the land of Egypt will I show unto him marvelous things.”
Note the words “According to,” indicating the unit of measure.
Note the change from this Old Testament standard to a new standard of measurement in the New Testament. The New Testament standard of God’s power to deliver is seen in Ephesians 1:19-20.
“19 And what is the exceeding greatness of his power to usward who believe, according to the working of his mighty power, 20 Which he wrought in Christ, when he raised him from the dead, and set him at his own right hand in the heavenly places,”
Consider Philippians 3:10 “That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death;”
4. He cared enough to prove that it happened (Acts 1:1-3).
Acts 1:“1 The former treatise have I made, O Theophilus, of all that Jesus began both to do and teach, 2 Until the day in which he was taken up, after that he through the Holy Ghost had given commandments unto the apostles whom he had chosen: 3 To whom also he shewed himself alive after his passion by many infallible proofs, being seen of them forty days, and speaking of the things pertaining to the kingdom of God:”
Luke 24:“36 And as they thus spake, Jesus himself stood in the midst of them, and saith unto them, Peace be unto you. 37 But they were terrified and affrighted, and supposed that they had seen a spirit. 38 And he said unto them, Why are ye troubled? and why do thoughts arise in your hearts? 39 Behold my hands and my feet, that it is I myself: handle me, and see; for a spirit hath not flesh and bones, as ye see me have. 40 And when he had thus spoken, he shewed them his hands and his feet. 41 And while they yet believed not for joy, and wondered, he said unto them, Have ye here any meat? 42 And they gave him a piece of a broiled fish, and of an honeycomb. 43 And he took it, and did eat before them.”
It wasn’t enough for Jesus to prepare His disciples by telling them about His death and Resurrection, by actually going through with His death, nor by doing what no one else could and rising from the dead. No, His compassion drove Him to go so far as to prove that He was alive so that there could be no doubt. He knew that’s what His followers would need.
5. He cared enough to plant me with Him. (Romans 6:3-5).
This deals with the doctrine of identification. We are “in Christ”, so whatever happened to Him, happened to us because we are “in Him.”
Romans 6:“3 Know ye not, that so many of us as were baptized into Jesus Christ were baptized into his death? 4 Therefore we are buried with him by baptism into death: that like as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life. 5 For if we have been planted together in the likeness of his death, we shall be also in the likeness of his resurrection:”
Because we are in Christ and He was resurrected, Romans tells us that we have no condemnation (8:1), we are freed from the law of sin and death (8:2), we have the Spirit dwelling in us (8:9-10), we will be resurrected (8:11) and we are joint-heirs with Christ (8:17).
In addition, you should read what Ephesians 1:3-14 and 2:10-14 have to say.
These blessings of being in Christ all reveal His unmistakable compassion.
6. He cared enough to provide resurrection power to every area of my life (Romans 6:3-5).
Romans 6:“3 Know ye not, that so many of us as were baptized into Jesus Christ were baptized into his death? 4 Therefore we are buried with him by baptism into death: that like as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life. 5 For if we have been planted together in the likeness of his death, we shall be also in the likeness of his resurrection:”
His compassion and love for me are obvious when I consider that the Resurrection of Christ enable me to live the victorious Christian life. He didn’t just resurrect. He transferred to us the ability to experience resurrection in every area of our lives. How amazing!
Question: What is the greatest change in your “newness of life” because of the Resurrection? I’d love to hear from you.
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Bus Ministry Proverbs-The Pathway To A Big Day – Week 3
Week #1 March 9 -
Getting understanding
Week #2 March 16 -
Knowledge of your bus route
Week #3 March 23 -
Q:when should I keep my mouth shut?
A:when I am mad and want to give a piece of my mind
Even a foolish bus worker, when he holdeth his peace is counted as wise:
Q:when should I keep my mouth shut?
A:when I want to give a worthless opinion
The beginning of strife is as when a letteth out water:therefore leave of contention
Q:when should I keep my mouth shut?
A:when tensions are running high-do your best to just get through the day
Be careful about calling kids names. Example: “you big baby” “cry baby”etc…
A bus rider offended is harder to be won than a strong city
Q:when should I keep my mouth shut?
A:when I want to talk about the faults of others
The bus worker that covers the transgression seeketh love
Q:When should I open my mouth?
A:when I have control of my own spirit
Big days bring the excitement out of bus workers and bus riders
Blowing a gasket in front of everyone on the bus, will only hurt the good kids
Wisdom to know who stays on the bus and who needs to stay off the bus
A scorner loveth not one who reproveth him: neither will he go unto the wise.
Our Sunday School teachers and church time workers desire for the bus riders to succeed
We have more trouble as the scorner gets older. Troubled teens who cannot get along with others, will ruin the whole day for others. We are all hopeful that they will turn around in the right direction, but we cannot take the chance.
Week#4 March 30 -
Discretion on the bus route
Week#5 April 6 -
Guard your heart on the bus route
Week#6 April 13 -
Fear on the bus route
Week#7 April 20 -
Digging for hidden treasures
Week#8 April 27 -
Finding precious gems on the bus route
Week#9 May 4 Carnival day -
Receiving finale instructions before the big day
Bus Ministry Proverbs-The Pathway To A Big Day – Week 2
Getting understanding
Week #2 March 16 -
Knowledge of your bus route
- Do you know what your record attendance is for your bus route?
- Do you know if you did it once you can do it again
- Do you know what real March Madness is? It is two months before May Madness when we have our Carnival Sunday
- Do you know you could have a terrible year and have a great day on the big day
- Do you know it is going to take several weeks of hard work before you can have a great day on big day
- Do you know happy is the bus worker who shows mercy on the poor
- Do you know that real mercy is to show the poor the only ONE who can help
- Do you know there are very few people who can compare to your influence, when it comes to reaching people
- Do you know the people you bring in are the same kind of people Jesus spent his time with
- Do you know that without prayer before visitation, you are trying to do supernatural work with human power
- Do you know God has prepared hearts before you go visiting?
- Do you know who is behind each door you pass by?
- Do you know what answer each person will give you before you knock on the door
- Do you know the kids you pass by could possibly say “yes”
- Do you know the vacant houses you pass by could have a new family there next week
- Do you know that it is better to knock on new doors, a few at a time each week, then to try to pull it all together one week before the big day
- Do you know that it takes every fiber of your being to stay sharp each and every week
Week#3 March 23 -
Wisdom on the bus route
Week#4 March 30 -
Discretion on the bus route
Week#5 April 6 -
Guard your heart on the bus route
Week#6 April 13 -
Fear on the bus route
Week#7 April 20 -
Digging for hidden treasures
Week#8 April 27 -
Finding precious gems on the bus route
Week#9 May 4 Carnival day -
Receiving finale instructions before the big day
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Question #5 That A Lady Needs Answered About The Guy She’s Dating (Without Actually Asking Him)
Question #5 That A Lady Needs Answered About The Guy She’s Dating
These thoughts are geared toward the college-age or older couples who have the opportunity to pursue a relationship that can ultimately lead them to marriage. Having said that, enjoy:
* I would not advise you to ask your date these questions. I would simply make it a point to find the answers to these questions by observing his life.
A lady should know about her guy without her needing to ask him…
5. Will you value my opinion at all?
The Bible is clear about the need for a wife to obey her husband.
Ephesians 5:22 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”
Colossians 3:18 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.”
Titus 2:“4 That they may teach the young women to be … 5 … obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
This is a thought that elicits varying emotions from young women as they prepare for marriage. These emotions may range from acceptance to disgust; from trust to terror; and everything in between. Regardless of how we feel about this truth, it is nevertheless a part of God’s Word, so He has made it clear how He feels about it. While a woman does not have a choice when it comes to obedience, she does have a choice about whether or not she pays attention to this question: “does he value my opinion?”.
Though I am far from ideal as a husband, my wife does not have a problem with submission or obedience. Not one time have I ever had to tell her that I was the boss in the home or have to remind her that I was in charge. Why is that? I’m sure there are many reasons, including the fact that she is spiritual; but I know for a fact that one of the reasons that she is comfortable following me is because both my words and my actions have made it clear that I when I am facing a decision, especially a decision that we affects both of us, I want her thoughts, opinions and council. If Angie and I disagree on a decision, we both know that I will be the one that will have to answer to God for that decision. However, because her opinion matters to me, it is much easier for her to submit. Ladies, are not trying to figure out if you can run your man, but if he values your opinions on various matters.
How can you figure out the answer to this question? Does he ever ask you what you think? How does he respond if he is doing something that you are uncomfortable with and you carefully and tactfully let him know your concerns. He doesn’t have to immediately stop and say, “You’re right, dear.” That might be nice, but it is also unrealistic. But it is not unrealistic to expect him to at least consider what you are saying. If he is a typical man, he will not react immediately, but he will think about it in the quiet of his own mind for a while before making his decision. This is sometimes referred to as his cave. Ok then, after he has time to ponder your thoughts, does it ever make a difference?
Consider this verse: Song of Solomon 2:4 “He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love.” One of the characteristics of this lover (who is a picture of Christ) is that his banner, or his method of leadership, over his woman was love. His banner was not rules, nor manipulation, nor yelling, nor criticism, but love. What a thought.
Let me finish with a few more questions that you should ask yourself. Does he listen to your appeals or is he always trying to put you in your place? Is he often telling you where you are messing up and expecting change or perfection? Is he a controller of your time and thoughts? These are signs that he is not going to value your opinion as much as he is going to try to give you his opinion. These are signs that he is not going to be the kind of man that you are going to enjoy following. Be observant now, while you still have time to dump him.
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